Dating for the sake of it
It may sound trite, but your attractiveness really does hinge on owning who you are, not who you were or indeed who you will be.A good rule of thumb is to try and post pictures taken within the past 18 months: A window of time in which you probably weighed the same amount or sported around the same amount of hair.Seeing how your date interacts with other people will give you a much more well-rounded view of the person they are.Friends and family will bring out different aspects of your partners personality and behavior.While being authentic is key, being a pill or a grouch is unlikely to have people salivating to spend an evening with you.
Now, you needn’t go all Ken doll on us, but if your chest, back, and privates are indistinguishable from those of a grizzly bear, a trim may well be appreciated. Bombfell, Stitch Fix and Trunk Club all exist because of men who feel like you do about shopping.
And besides, you may feel a bit rusty—even nervous! Today, we’re all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you’d leave a “positive paper trail” for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life.
—as you jump back into the game after a long absence. Looking for love in your fifth decade isn’t nearly as difficult as you may imagine. And before your jump back in, remember that, no matter her age, there are exactly 17 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman. (Get on social media and make sure you’re projecting a healthy image into the world. You will find yourself doing more texting than you’ve ever imagined.
And for more great tips, it wouldn’t hurt to brush up on the 40 Best Compliments to Give People Over 40.
Some things never change: You should arrive on time, be present, take a genuine interest in who she is and what she derives meaning from, offer to pick up the tab, and see that she gets cab if she’s going home or stand outside while she enters her home safely.