Advice online dating first message
I know people tend to shy away from “Get up to anything fun this weekend” but if you really can’t think of a single thing else to ask and her profile gives you no clues, go with something safe like that. I know you’re thinking…well I wouldn’t date a girl who’s so judgmental about a couple typos but while you say typos she sees idiot.
Given that they measure "success" by response rate I'm not sure I put a whole lot of faith in the below quoted analyses.
I'd bet that, to a point, there's a correlation between the volume of text sent and reply rate.
However, that might just have to do with the fact that a longer message is more likely to reference specific things in the person's profile that they find interesting (for example, I replied to almost anyone who showed interest in the fact that I bake bread and like kites). Ok Cupid's chat system is horrible, and results in lots of missed messages. An IM handle gives an easy way to ping people later, the other person is subscribing to be IM'd by you in the future.i'd make the argument that the article submission itself is a bit too much like reddit, hence the reddit-like response from myself and others. The writers' profile does not seem to have been taken into consideration.
Yes, some of the answers may be stupid, but that’s OK. There are plenty of other women dying to meet me and you both online and offline!
But an offer to chat or of an email address right off the bat is a sure turn off.
One of the things online dating has going for it is its relative anonymity, and if you start chipping away at that too early, you’ll scare the other person off."Having used the site, no one puts contact information in their profiles.
And a request to use the built-in chat system right away is a pretty sure sign that I'm not going to want to talk to someone.
And I know this seems tedious because you might message 10 chicks and only get 1 response back but it matters, and it’s probably what got the 1 chick.
But seriously, I know this seems obvious and straightforward but I can’t express how important this is…even if by the end, you’re still only messaging because you think she’s a babe. If you’re not reading it for you, you’re still reading it for her.